Fat shaming

There are so many negative things in this world and we have such a short time on this earth that I really think that people need to just try to be nicer to each other.  I've recently rediscovered church; don't worry I'm not going to preach to you or become holier than thou.  Though all of the health changes, life changes, mental changes and physical changes I'm really kind of just trying to be a better person in general.   It isn't because someone tells me I have to.  It is because that's what I feel like I need to do at this point in my life.

I feel like everyone should be accepted or at the least respected.  Whether you're gay, black, fat or gay black and fat..... you get the point.  People need to stop tearing each other down and start building each other up. 

I have publicly subjected myself to scrutiny but posting information about my personal life, my photos and my struggles.  When people have negative things to say to me it hurts my feelings but I realize those comments are going to come up.  I have a HUGE problem when people are just mean to be mean or to make themselves feel better.

I participate regularly in a team/group sport.  There are people of all kinds there each week.  There are a lot of nice people there are there are some assholes.  Some days I'm the asshole.  There is an older woman who really just annoys the shit out of me.  She has for 3 years now.  Last night she came to ask me how my back was since we weren't there last week.  I felt like a total bitch.  This woman who is just an older lady doing older lady things who happens to annoy me sought me out and genuinely cared about how I was.  What a giant piece of shit I am.   As dumb as it sounds I really just wanted to crawl into a hole and disappear.  She's never done anything to me.... I just was annoyed by her presence.  I'm sure I have that effect on some people as well.

Then...the straw that broke the camels back... A woman on the other team we played  who, by all means, is not a small person. was overheard making  a comment about another woman on a difference team.  "Is she pregnant or just really fat?"  It wasn't said in a questioning manner.... it was HATEFUL.  My immediate reaction was to whip around and say something but I didn't for the sake of Joe's sanity.  I thought about how that other person would feel if she had heard her say that and I knew that it would hurt her feelings.  The other girl is so nice.  She is always smiling, friendly....by all standards much nicer than I am on most days we are there.

The moral of all of this is that we need to STOP hating on one another.  Everyone is struggling with something.  Maybe I'm overweight because of a medical issue, maybe I just like to eat fried chicken and twizzlers or maybe I am just lazy. I might be having issues in my outside life that you aren't aware of.  Who knows what's going on in someones life unless you are in it!  I'm going to try much harder to follow my own advice and not be so judgy...I know that's not a word.   I've said it before and I'll say it again.  We need to build each other up not tear each other down.